Away for the Winter, back in the Spring

In April I went to Peru for a one-month sabbatical. During this time I worked with the traditional medicine of the Amazon, a powerful healing plant that opened the door to new possibilities and understandings.

I thought this trip would give me some answers about the future of my work and of Sacred Pleasures. In fact what I was shown was that this was just the beginning of a longer, deeper journey with the medicine. It also reminded me of my passionate love of the Peruvian Andes: one of the few places I’ve been on the planet that truly feels like home. I won a trip to Macchu Pichu in 2015 and this was my first taste of these celestial mountains, with a clear message from Life that I must spend more time there. The trip this April reminded me how alive and connected I feel up there.

Pisac, Sacred Valley Peru

It was clear to me at the end of the trip that I needed to go back to Peru. I thought this would be a year later, but then three things happened to loosen my connection with London. My partner and I broke up right after my Peru trip, a close friend asked for some space and my best friend died – all within a few weeks of each other. This invited me to consider changing not only how I do things but where I base myself.

In response to these gifts I have decided to travel for the whole of the coming winter. I will head out to Peru in late November for a further 7-week sabbatical to continue my healing journey with the plants and my love affair with those magical mountains. Then I’ll be back for a week before flying to Australia and New Zealand for my first chance to present my work there.

I feel incredibly excited about this opportunity to avoid the cool wet European winter and to get out of London at a time I’ve found difficult to live through in the past. It feels like the right thing for me to do and I’m really thrilled that Life has enabled it.

But what, you’re wondering, are the implications of this for my work? I’ve been thinking carefully about this and I definitely want to continue offering my services while I’m travelling, though in a more limited capacity. So this is how it’s going to play out.

Peru (24th Nov 17 – 14th Jan 18)

While in Peru I’ll be available for Zoom coaching sessions with select clients. I’ll give priority to existing clients and I’ll also be delighted to take on new clients where appropriate. Zoom coaching is every bit as powerful and effective as working face-to-face and I feel confident that I’ll be able to serve you beautifully from wherever I am.

One consideration will be the availability of fast stable Internet, which can be a bit limited in Peru – however I should be quite able to accommodate this using a local 3G/4G data card and making sure I’m somewhere with a decent signal for sessions.

I’ll be doing at least two 10-day retreats during my trip so my availability will be limited and I may need to book sessions at somewhat shorter notice than usual. However with these things in mind I’ll be delighted to work with you over Zoom while I’m in Peru.

Australia & New Zealand (23rd Jan – 16th Mar 18)

While in Australia and New Zealand I’ll be facilitating workshops at two festivals, offering workshops of my own in Melbourne and collaborating with the wonderful Ellie Wilde for a retreat near Auckland. I’ll also be available for face-to-face coaching and pleasure sessions in each location when I’m there.

My schedule is still being firmed up but this is what it’s likely to look like:

26 Jan – 3 Feb: participating in the Festival of Really Good Sex (nr Sydney)
5 & 6 Feb: sessions in Sydney
7 – 11 Feb: evening classes and workshops in Melbourne (tbc)
13 – 17 Feb: sessions in Melbourne
2 – 4 Mar: participating in the Eden Festival (Auckland)
6 & 7 Mar: sessions in Auckland
9 – 14 Mar: The Garden retreat with Ellie Wilde (nr Auckland)

In addition I’ll be available for Zoom coaching sessions throughout my trip. Although I’m looking forward to revisiting these two beautiful countries that I love, this is first and foremost a work trip and I’ll be available to book sessions throughout my time there.

So this is what my winter looks like this year. I’m very excited about it. If you happen to be in Australia or New Zealand I would love you to join me for a festival or workshop — and if you want to work over Skype, please be in touch through my contact form to arrange that.

Return to UK next Spring

When I come back to the UK in late March I’ll be leading The Purple Door for its last ever London outing. This will be my 14th time leading this workshop, which I’ve delivered (both solo and with Marti) in London, Copenhagen, Amsterdam, Utrecht and Prague since its inception in January 2013. It is time to retire this classic workshop. The last London edition will be on 24/25 March and I’ll be taking it on a ‘retirement tour’ around Europe later in 2018.

Then in April I’m very excited to work with the legendary Dossie Easton on a week-long retreat called Dancing in the Dark. It’s been a dream of mine for some time to create this deep shadow-healing space with Dossie – and I was utterly delighted to discover that it’s her first time leading a week-long retreat. This is going to be an epic, once-in-a-lifetime experience for a group of up to 40 brave explorers – if you’re interested in attending I recommend applying early as it’s likely to be very popular. Find out more and apply to attend here >>

The long-term future of Sacred Pleasures is still unclear and I’m looking forward to receiving more insights about this as I go on the road this winter. To find out more about our short-term plans, please read this blog post on the SP website >>

If you have any questions about my trip away this Winter, please get in touch. And if you’d like to work with me, either before I leave for the Winter or while I’m on the road, please complete the New Client Enquiry Form.

About my name change

On the 1st July 2017 (1/7/17), I changed my name from London Faerie to Newman Alexander. Quite a few people have asked me why I decided to do this, so I thought I’d share a bit of what’s behind the name change.

Nearly 7 years ago, on the 10th October 2010 (10/10/10), I adopted the name London Faerie. I had never changed my name before – I’d been Justin Newman Allen from the day I was born until then. I had the handle London Faerie on a few web boards, but no-one called me that in person. I was still Justin, the name my parents had chosen for me, inspired by a bottle of Justina wine they’d drunk on holiday while they were pregnant with me. (Yes, really!)

It felt like a significant thing to do, to adopt this new name London Faerie. Hearing myself called by the new name reminded me that I was a spiritual being in physical form (as I believe we all are). It was a way to keep myself on track, to recall that a calling had chosen me and to stay focussed on what was really important: The Work.

Seven years on and the name no longer feels like a good fit. There are a few reasons for this:

I don’t have much to do with the Radical Faeries these days – in fact, I stopped hanging out with them in 2012. Although I maintain friendships with some of the people I met at Faerie Gatherings, I no longer have the strong connection with the tribe that I once did.

Lately I find myself less and less in tune with London, the mighty city where I was born and raised and where I’ve lived most of my life. I crave to be closer to nature and I want to live somewhere less intense. Although I haven’t taken that step yet (it would be a big deal for me to leave London), I feel like not being called “London” anymore supports a movement in that direction.

London Faerie has a quirky, alternative feel to it. I’ve been told over the years that it put some people off approaching me or engaging with The Work because they thought it might be too weird or far out for them.

While I was in the jungle in Peru, I was inspired to reclaim my middle name: Newman. It’s my grandfather’s name and it’s what my mother wanted me to be called. My dad said no because he was afraid it sounded too Jewish and that I’d be teased for it at school – so they settled on Justin as a first name and Newman as a middle name.

By adopting Newman, I feel that I’m honouring my ancestors, acknowledging my essential Jewishness (though I do not practice in the religion) and making a shift in my relationship with the world. Newman is a strong positive name and it feels like a fresh start, a welcoming-in of the new.

And what about Alexander? Well honestly, I made it up! As I had a lot of free time in the jungle, I made a list of possible surnames to go with Newman, and I tried them out on the people I was on retreat with. Quite often I’d get quite excited about a name but the response was not that enthusiastic; then I hit on Newman Alexander, which got a universal chorus of approval.

A few weeks before he died, my wise friend Jon Underwood (founder of Death Cafe) said to me, “Once you’ve changed your name once, you realise you can do it as many times as you like.” As my work sits on the cusp of something new, it feels like the right moment to change my name again: from London Faerie to Newman Alexander (pronouns: they/them/their).

I look forward to meeting you again in my new incarnation, the same yet different. And I know that it takes a little while to adapt when someone changes their name, so please don’t worry if you call me Faerie sometimes as the transition takes full effect.

If you have any questions about the name change that aren’t answered above, please don’t hesitate to get in touch: hello @ newmanalexander . com.

With much love
Newman Alexander

TEDx: Liberate your sexuality and discover who you really are

In October 2015 I was invited to give a talk at TEDx Royal Holloway (under my former name: London Faerie). I spoke on my favourite subject – liberating your sexuality to discover who you really are. Here’s the presentation.

Faerie teaching alongside world-class Tantra teachers

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London Faerie is delighted to be teaching at the Celebration of Life festival in the Czech Republic this July. He will feature alongside world-class Tantra teachers John Hawken and Sarita, Conscious Kink practitioner and friend Ruby May and the highly-regarded founder of The Art of Being, Alan Lowen.

This festival is already proving popular and is likely to sell out well in advance. If you’d like to attend this exciting new festival, visit the Celebration of Life website now >>

Sacred Kink in Fetish Film Festival

I am very excited that Sacred Kink, the short film made by Ana Morphic about my Ecstatic BDSM practice, has been shortlisted for the Fetish Film Festival in Germany. And here it is … the content is a little out of date now (particularly the stuff about what I offer), but it gives a good flavour of the work nonetheless.
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Thanks to Ana Morphic, Mojo Factory, Claire Black and Ruby May for their valuable contributions to this film.

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